My heart is really tender around Mother’s Day time of year. Sure, because I have natural and step children, and now even grandbabies I love dearly. Each one gives such meaning to life. Each one is so uniquely different in their own gifting and abilities. I love family life!
But how do you remember, on Mother’s Day, the children you’ve lost ? Holidays truly are the hardest time of year for everyone whose experienced loss in any form.
But even more puzzling is how do you remember the child you carried but never got the chance to see his/her little face, touch their fingers and toes, or rock to sleep at night?
How do mother’s who had a miscarriage deal with Mother’s Day?
From experience and many observations, the answer is ’silently’.
As loud as silent can be, they walk among us never saying a word, but at the mention of the subject or the sound of another baby’s cry, they well up in tears and those around them wonder why because they’ve long forgotten what that mother could never forget.
Even in purposed miscarriage or decisive abortion, mother’s stuff their inner awareness and pretend it never happened because there’s no outward sign of that child’s existence.
Reality says different. A child was conceived. A life created. Who’s going to celebrate that life? and how? Continue reading What about miscarriage?
